ADHD "Time Blindness" - 7 Tips For Motivating Children With ADHD

As someone diagnosed with ADHD and a mother to both an autistic child and a child with ADHD, I know first-hand what it's like to navigate the complexities of having a neurodivergent family. ADHD Time Blindness is a constant companion in our family's journey, especially for me and my ADHD daughter (she's almost 9 years old now). If you’ve ever felt like time slips through your fingers or your child seems perpetually late or tends to wait until the very last second to get things done...you’re not alone! Let’s explore what ADHD Time Blindness is and share some practical tips to help our children—and ourselves—navigate this challenge.

What is ADHD Time Blindness?

Time Blindness in ADHD refers to the difficulty in perceiving the passage of time. For those with ADHD, time isn’t a steady flow but a series of “now” moments. This can lead to chronic lateness, missed deadlines, and a general sense of time chaos. It’s not about laziness or a lack of discipline; it’s about our brains processing time differently.

My Personal Struggle with Time Blindness

I’ve experienced Time Blindness firsthand. There are days when I sit down to write or tackle a project, only to realize hours have slipped away with little to show for it. Or, I procrastinate until the very last second, where I will then panic and feel overwhelmed because "there isn't enough time". I see this mirrored in my child’s struggle to transition between activities, get tasks done, or remember upcoming events. Recognizing these patterns has helped me develop strategies to support both of us.

7 Tips for Motivating Children with ADHD

1. Use Visual Timers and Clocks Visual timers can make abstract time concepts tangible. Seeing time pass helps children with ADHD understand how long they have for a task. I use a simple visual timer or the timer on my cell phone for activities like homework and chores.

2. Create a Structured Routine Consistency is key. A predictable schedule can reduce anxiety and improve time management. We have a daily routine and chores chart posted on the wall, detailing everything from breakfast to bedtime.

3. Break Tasks into Smaller Steps Large tasks can be overwhelming. Breaking them down into smaller, manageable steps makes them less daunting. For example, instead of “clean your room,” we start with "make your bed," then “pick up clothes,” then “put away toys."

4. Incorporate Breaks and Rewards Short breaks between tasks can help maintain focus. We use a simple reward system where completing tasks earns points towards a favorite activity or treat.

5. Use Alarms and Reminders Set multiple alarms for important tasks and transitions. I have alarms for everything—from getting ready in the morning to starting homework to bath time. This helps keep both of us on track. I even have to set a timer to remind myself to pick up the kids from school!

6. Make Time Visible and Fun Use colorful charts and planners to visualize time. We have a magnetic weekly & monthly planner on the fridge, along with a to-do list, and a grocery list. Yes, there's a lot going on there LOL! If I don't visually see it, I will likely forget. My daughter and I also use a weekly planner with stickers to mark off completed tasks. It’s a fun and interactive way to keep track of time and tasks.

7. Practice Time Management Skills Teach your child to estimate how long tasks will take and then compare it to actual time spent. This can be a game where they guess and then time themselves, helping them develop a better sense of time. Making it a game makes it fun and enjoyable for them.

ADHD Time Blindness is a significant challenge, but with understanding and the right strategies, it’s manageable. As someone who shares your struggles, I’ve found these tips invaluable in creating a more structured and less stressful environment for my family. Remember, patience and persistence are key. Together, we can help our children—and ourselves—thrive.